I tell you from time to time but just to make sure we are on the same page – you know you are the BEST Dad I could possibly have asked for and I love you SO much, right?
I have been doing some thinking lately, about where I am in my life. About the good and bad financial decisions I’ve made, the steps I’ve taken to fix things, about the little family I now have in Nic, Jordan and Banjoe and about the things I still have to continue doing to ensure a healthy future for my family. I have been thinking a lot about the values that you have instilled in me and I am here to express my deepest gratitude.
You have taught me the rights and wrongs about money, dealing with people and about getting things done. You have taught me about kindness, perseverance and hard work. You have taught me that even though you might have the money, it doesn’t need to be spent recklessly. Save save save. We have chatted about my own personal goals and achievements but through your own example you have shown me what is important in life. I admire you so much for this. Growing up we didn’t just ‘get’ whatever we wanted at the shops when we wanted it. Birthdays and Christmas were the occasions when we would get those special things our kiddy hearts longed for. Sure we’d get the odd marshmallow liquorice mouse from the 7/11 when you or mom popped out to buy bread, the odd surprise here or there. We had absolutely everything and more that a child needs to be happy and to thrive, but you never ‘spoilt’ us growing up. I mean this in the sense that you have instilled in me that everything has value and that money does not grow on trees. You have taught me that in order to get what you want and deserve, you have to work hard for it. It sounds like a simple life lesson but it is SUCH a powerful one.
I am so thankful to you for giving me a head start in life. For the school and college education that you gave me, which I will never take for granted and without it I would not be where I am today. You bought me my first car when I passed my driver’s licence and surprised me with an upgrade one day when I was at college because you told me how proud you were of me that I was working so hard and doing so well. I remember crying I was so happy and so excited! Even then, the upgrade was definitely an upgrade but it was still humble. Thank you for not being one of those parents who buys their kid an Audi TT for their 21st birthday! I remember when I was still at college, you snuck out with my car one day when I came to visit for lunch and you brought my car back with 4 new tyres on it. I am so lucky to have such a great Dad.
Thank you for making me clean up the crumbs on the counter after I made toast or pick up my hair clips and clothes that used to lie all over the house. Although I loathed you for it back then it has taught me to take pride in my home and to pick up after myself. Thank you for kakking me out for not washing my car when I was at college and I obviously had way ‘more important’ things to do – it has taught me to value my assets and to think about the resale possibilities down the line. Thank you for teaching me that if I was supposed to be home at 11pm, two minutes past eleven meant that I had not kept my promise – it has taught me to respect peoples time, to realise the importance of safety and to stay true to my word. Through these ‘lessons’ that might seem insignificant right now, I have learnt to think long-term and to value and to look after everything I have spent my hard-earned cash on and to realise the importance of safety and trust.
Thank you for giving Nic and I some furniture for our first flat together, most of which we still have! Thank you for so generously contributing to our Wedding day, so much so that Nic and I didn’t have to pay a cent. But since that day, I thank you for letting Nic take care of me. Thank you for always giving us advice when we ask for it and only when you really think we need it. You allow us to be the adults that we are and whilst you always give the best advice you can possibly give, you let us make our own decisions. Thank you for always being so willing to be a sounding board and such a valuable source of information. We are so grateful for that. Thank you for always being there for us should the s**t ever hit the fan – touch wood. Most importantly, I thank you for NOT being there for us in the financial sense that we have to figure our own things out, to go through the motions as you did, to start small, invest small and to build our way up.. to only live within our means and to fear credit cards like the black plague. Thank you for letting us do things on our own.
Because you have taught me the philosophy that you make your own fate happen and that no one else is going to do your dirty work for you – I know how to deal with the sale of a house for example. This is a big deal for me because it is NOT a walk in the park – as you know. It might sound like a small deal but I have saved my butt on a few occasions simply by knowing the right questions to ask. If I had someone doing this for me my whole life I would never know what questions to ask. Thank you for allowing me to think independently and for empowering me to stand on my own two feet. Thank you for allowing me the space to figure things out for myself, but for always being there to offer solid guidance should I ever need you – one of the biggest gifts you ever could give a child.
I am so grateful for the life lessons you have taught me, which enable me to feel proud of what we have achieved, on our own, and to never take any of it for granted. No silver platters here.
Thank you for your never-ending love and support Dad. I love you so much x